People say NO to me all the time. It hurts. It can be hard sometimes to have a door shut.

NO they don’t want me to feature their wedding, NO they won’t accept my client for a feature this time around in their magazine, NO  I can’t loan you that product for your press project, NO I am not going  to hire you at this time for consulting, NO I am not going to work for you, NO I don’t have your back (even though I’ll pretend that I do).

I get the, “I’m sorry, but No” too just like all of you and guess what that does??? It reminds us that when we get that YES it’s the better option, the be better fit, the better opportunity. My husband reminds me of this all the time: “If you are afraid of the no’s you’ll never be open for the YES”.

The YES then becomes that much sweeter, and you know that you will treat that person like gold for giving you a chance. Don’t forget those who have said YES to you and remember to consider: is this new open door something you will value and show your appreciation for again?

Don’t forget the little people… I don’t, and I certainly won’t especially as I grow and when it matters most.

Photographer: Elizabeth Messina
comments: 52
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    MilesWittBoyer /

    RT @weddingpr: If you are afraid of the NO’s you’ll never be open for the YES! http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    weddingpr /

    If you are afraid of the NO’s you’ll never be open for the YES! http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    sierraclarkeee /

    RT If you are afraid of the NO’s you’ll never be open for the YES! http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    ShootMeFilms_ /

    @weddingPR isn’t that the truth!

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    1011makeup /

    She does it again! So eloquent… RT @weddingPR: If you are afraid of the NO’s you’ll never be open for the YES! http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    Garrett /

    The perfect message for exactly what I’m feeling at this moment. Thank you for sharing this, Leila – it’s so true! I will never take for granted those who have given me and my humble business a worthwhile chance!

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    CathleyaS /

    Every NO makes every YES sweeter & if you never ask, you’re not going to get EITHER! Great to think abt via @weddingpr http://ht.ly/bhvft

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    weddingpr /

    Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO” http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    StyledAccord /

    Very inspiring & oh-so-true post from @weddingpr: If You Are Afraid of the No’s You’ll Never be Open for the Yes http://ow.ly/bhtWb

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    ScratchWeddings /

    Some great advice! RT @weddingPR If you are afraid of the NO’s you’ll never be open for the YES! http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    EpicStudios1 /

    @weddingPR This is a really great quick tip! Thanks so much for sharing it! I have never heard it put that way before! :)

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    Stacy /

    The no’s also make me think strategically and shed light on new potential opportunities. Why did this person say no – is it a hint to tailor my strategy or angle? Is there something I could offer further to accommodate? That challenge helps me reinvent and formulate new thoughts! Good post :)

    Th

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    preciousthamaga /

    Awesome thanks :-)”@weddingPR: It’s been a while since I’ve posted a business tip – here’s one that I hope really resonates with you today.

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    WeddingRowCal /

    @weddingpr I love this, so good to be reminded sometimes.

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    Ashlilium1 /

    Those are just the words I needed to read today @weddingPR :)

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    EngageCelebrant /

    @weddingPR a great way to look at it. Thanks for sharing.

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    HowHeAsked /

    @weddingPR Great post. A “No” actually challenges me to reinvent and formulate new thoughts! So I agree – only a positive thing :)

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    KMPaperie /

    @weddingPR I like this. Your, “nos” only make you a better business owner The “Yes’” are what are going to make your business shine. <3

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    moliverweddings /

    @weddingPR Amazing. Great post, just what I was feeling :-).

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    Sterling_Social /

    Great post Leila…so true, thank u! RT @weddingPR: If you are afraid of the NO’s you’ll never be open for the YES! http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    Marisol Aparicio /

    Beautiful said! Don’t be afraid for the no’s, rejection is just one of the many steps to success :)

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    Simply Natural Events /

    Well said! Just what I needed to hear today!

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    Studio K Photography /

    Thank you… life is that simple… we would never know “YES” if we didn’t know “NO” and … “NO” is a lesson learned, which is soooo valuable, even though it sometimes SUCKS OUT LOUD! xoxoxo ; )

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    loverly /

    What do you take away from people that say NO to you? So insightful via @weddingpr

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    WeMontage /

    RT @loverly: What do you take away from people that say NO to you? So insightful via @weddingPR

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    taraconsolati /

    Great post! “@weddingPR: Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO” http://su.pr/9MYpTZ”

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    canvasandcanopy /

    @weddingPR love”don’t forget the little people”& may I add that I wish more people wld do nice things w/out career motives. just to b nice.

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    simplymodernwed /

    so so true!!!! RT @weddingPR: Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO”

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    SwannSoirees /

    great post to keep one motivated! RT “@weddingPR: here’s a biz tip I hope really resonates with you today http://su.pr/9MYpTZ”

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    KensingtonRyan /

    Yep! @weddingPR nailed it. “IfYou Are Afraid of the No’s You’ll Never be Open for the Yes”- http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    PTbyC /

    So on time! “@loverly: What do you take away from people that say NO to you? So insightful via @weddingpr http://lvr.me/JCF77U”

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    PTbyC /

    @loverly @weddingpr thanks so much for sharing!

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    KimberlyFusaro /

    @weddingPR Well said! [insert polite applause here] ;)

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    missprissypaige /

    I SO needed to remember this today! So true! RT @weddingPR: Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO”

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    KissTheGroom /

    love this “@weddingPR: It’s been a while since I’ve posted a business tip – here’s one that I hope resonates with you http://su.pr/9MYpTZ”

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    ArtOFJoy_photo /

    @KissTheGroom @weddingPR great advice!

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    uandievents /

    @weddingPR We are saying YES! to this article. Inspiring read!

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    luxurweddings /

    Great post @weddingPR ! Like always!

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    SwannSoirees /

    @weddingPR Thank you for putting it out there!

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    luxurweddings /

    @weddingPR nothing to thank sweets, it’s a pleasure always to read your fab insights!

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    ElleKayEvents /

    Awesome advise! “@weddingPR: Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO” http://su.pr/9MYpTZ”

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    HndcrftedAffair /

    This :-) RT @weddingPR: Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO”

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    bombshelle0 /

    This :-) RT @weddingPR: Why you shouldn’t be afraid of the word “NO”

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    weddingPR /

    An honest account of what its like to be rejected and how i deal: http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    ApolloStringDuo /

    @weddingPR Great post! So true and a great lesson to follow. Thx! RT http://su.pr/9MYpTZ

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    marymarantz /

    RT @weddingPR: An honest account of what its like to be rejected and how i deal: http://su.pr/9MYpTZ LOVE this! SOOO good!

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    itsnancyz /

    @weddingPR — awesome!!!! Thanks for posting

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    Lora Elaine /

    Leila, so grateful for you! RT“@weddingPR: An honest account of what its like to be rejected and how i deal: http://su.pr/9MYpTZ”

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    Eileen de las Alas /

    What an encouraging reminder! Don’t focus on NO.
    YES to keep moving forward!!!

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    HeartLoveWed /

    “If you are afraid of the no’s you’ll never be open for the YES.” – @weddingPR http://www.inspiredbythis.com/2012/05/if-you-are-afraid-of-the-nos-youll-never-be-open-for-the-yes/

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    davidgee201 /

    Nice quote @HeartLoveWed @weddingPR RT @HeartLoveWed “If you are afraid of the no’s you’ll never be open for the YES.” – @weddingPR http://www.inspiredbythis.com/2012/05/if-you-are-afraid-of-the-nos-youll-never-be-open-for-the-yes/

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